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  • Five reasons why you aren’t having great s*x

    Five reasons why you aren’t having great s*x

    For men and women, sexual satisfaction isn’t the same. Great sex happens when interests are aligned; and when they are not, the sex suffers.

    Here are possible reasons you’re not having great sex:

    1. Important conversations have not been had
    At the heart of it, sex is intimacy and intimacy means “close familiarity and friendship.”

    Everyone’s body is like a story; knowing them and their body requires conversation and practicals. So, talk about it. Ask questions.

    2. You are distracted
    These little worries, fears and intrusive thoughts ruin things. A woman might start, wondering, “Does he love me?” “Is he cheating on me?” “Did I put off the gas cooker?” right in the middle of sex.

    Men, especially young men also experience intrusive thoughts in the form of pressure to perform or “blow her mind”.

    3. Loosen up
    It is not open-heart surgery, don’t take it too seriously. Sometimes, you have to go with the flow of things and laugh when things go wrong.

    4. You are not in love or committed to the person
    Strangers and one night stands can provide some relief from horniness.

    However, we know that love causes endorphins to be released and we are basically in a drugged state when in love, this heightens the experience of sex.

    5. It has become boring
    Oh well, in most marriages, sex can plateau. That is why you have to experiment with different things. Be open to new things. There is no right way to have sex if pleasure is the goal.

    Try role-playing, blindfolding and other bondage techniques, new styles, and using other ‘equipment’ like vibrators might add some spark.

    Final important note
    At the heart of it, your mental state is responsible for how and if you enjoy sex. Depression and anxiety, feeling insecure about your body and life can make the entire process uncomfortable.

    Also, do not forget to use lubrication!

    source:fakazanews

  • This is how to talk about s*x with a new partner

    This is how to talk about s*x with a new partner

    Of course, the months or weeks leading to a new relationship and even the early stages of it would be filled with questions and observations and other ways of trying to know each other more and familiarize yourselves with each other.

    Of all the necessary conversations to have, the one about sex might be one of the most awkward ones. And it won’t be surprising if one or both partners feel a little reluctant or reticent on the subject.

    Regardless of the awkwardness that may be associated with the conversation, it is one that definitely needs to be had particularly if the relationship is meant to be a sexual one.

    So, how do you go about having this conversation?

    Ease them into the conversation
    In a culture where people almost always feel guarded, offended and some-type-of-way hearing sexual topics or discussing sex, it is important to be tactful about your approach to the subject, especially that first time.

    It won’t be strange if your partner needs a little time to go all the way in; if they want to take their time to open up completely.

    You don’t expect them to unpack and unload all on you in just one conversation. So while it is important to be tactful in beginning the conversation, that same finesse has to be carried into the conversation too. Don’t probe when they obviously don’t want to talk about a certain thing or two.

    Give it time.

    Sexual relationship or not?
    The fact that you are talking about sex does not mean the relationship would be a sexual one. People dating are expected to talk about any and everything so far it helps them know each other better and understand the inner workings of each other’s minds.

    So, on the off chance that you did not have the conversation before you became official, the early days of that relationship is the best time to establish whether this is to be a sexual relationship or not, or if one of you would require a little time before feeling cool enough to have sex.

    Ask for their preferences
    This goes without saying. If it is going to be a sexual relationship, you want to know what they expect from you. What are the special sexual needs particular to them, what are the things that make sex rock for them? These are things you really want to ask and know.

    And of course, implement.

    Source:fakazanews